Relations are Delicate, Handle with care….

Relations are very essential part of life. Without healthy relations life cannot survive, a society cannot carry itself and a civilization cannot be formed. Life becomes heaven if nourished with healthy relationship and the same life becomes a hell if feed with bad relationship.

Every relation starts with full energy and enthusiasm and initially everything seems perfect but with the passage of time every relation becomes dry and loose its gentle feeling. At this time relations need some treatment to prevent them from dying away. Every relationship needs to be treated as a kid and needs to be taken care with love and dedication. I got one mail from one of my friend which I think is a good one to save any dying relationship. It emphasizes that all relationships need intimacy and understanding to survive. One thing is to be remembered that if in one’s life relations are healthy and strong the life is heaven but if it does not happens the life is the worst thing to feel and seems like a punishment.

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TO ALL MARRIED COUPLES AND SINGLES WHO INTEND TO GET MARRIED

When I got home that night, as my wife served dinner, I held her handand said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and atequietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her knowwhat I was thinking. I want a divorce.

I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly,why?I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away thechopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew shewanted to find out what had happened to our marriage.But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heartto a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces.

The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not takeback what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release.The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed tobe firmer and clearer now.The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight tosleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventfulday with Dew..When I woke up, she was still there at the table, writing. I just didnot care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal alife as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son has his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.This was agreeable to me.

But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was goingcrazy.Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies,she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had anybody's contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed.

So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom tothe sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce.I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. Onthe second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest... I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that, i hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair were graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her.

For aminute I wondered what I had done to her.On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger.. I suddenly realized that she had grown sothin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in atthe moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of hislife. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from thebedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school.I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door.I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...

I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have afever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, Iwon't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and Ididn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love eachother any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home onour wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart..

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and thenslammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowersfor my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'.

The small details of our lives are what really matter in arelationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bankbalance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to beyour spouse's friend and do those little things for each other thatbuild intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage life..!